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Teach with Wisdom and Mercy (17 April 2023/ 26 Ramadan 1444)


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Teach with Wisdom and Mercy

Shaykh Mehmet Adil al-Ḥaqqānī
(17 April 2023/ 26 Ramadan 1444)

As-Salāmu ‘alaykum wa-raḥmatu Llāhi wa-barakātuh.

A‘ūdhu bi-Llāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r-rajīm. Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm.

Aṣ-ṣalātu wa-s-Salāmu ‘alá Rasūlinā Muḥammadin Sayyidi l-awwalīna wa-l-ākhirīn. Madad yā Rasūla Llāh, madad yā Sādātī Aṣḥābi Rasūli Llāh, madad yā Mashāyikhanā, dastūr Mawlānā Shaykh ‘Abdu Llāh al-Fā’iz ad-Dāghistānī, Shaykh Muḥammad Nāẓim al-Ḥaqqānī. Madad.

Ṭarīqatuna ṣ-ṣuḥbah, wa-l-khayru fi l-jam’iyyah.

Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm. "Bashshirū wa-lā tunaffirū yassirū wa-lā tu‘assirū," says our Holy Prophet ṣallá Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam. He صلى الله عليه وسلم says, "Make it easy and don't make it difficult." Making things difficult leads people to hatred and pushes them away. It pushes them away from the religion. We shouldn't make it too difficult for them. Because not everyone is used to it. There are those who take time to be guided. There are children. They are also not used to things. You must show them the good and the bad in a nice way and ensure that they do it. Otherwise, when using force, most of the time it happens the other way. The opposite happens. People start to hate it. They don't want to listen and want to run away from this thing. Therefore, we must think through everything we do. We must look to see if we are doing right or we are doing wrong.

That is why the ḥadīth sharīf of our Holy Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم says, "Tafakkur sā‘atin khayrun min ‘ibādati sab‘īn sanah." Contemplating what to do and how to do it, for one hour, is better than worshiping for seventy years. Because one will probably do much better things in that one hour. It will be beneficial to humanity and to himself. Otherwise, worshiping doesn't bring benefit to anyone except himself. There is nothing for others. Therefore, you must contemplate what to do and how to behave. You must think about it and act accordingly.

The first thing people should do for their families is to teach them to pray. You can't make them pray by beating. If they do, it is only up to a point. Then they will run. You must do everything with goodness so that they follow you and don't upset you. Otherwise, the more you apply force and push them, the more they will try to escape. There is nothing to run from. Therefore, if you want to do so, do it to your ego. If you want to make it difficult and do more, do it yourself. Let your ego do it. Oppress your ego. It is not like that with others. You can apply force only to your ego. And do goodness to others. Always show beauty. With beauty, they will have affection towards you. They will love you and they will follow you, and you will get what you want. You won't get it done any other way.

May Allāh جل جلاله give wisdom to all of us. May He جل جلاله show us what we should do, not what our ego wants. May we know the good and the bad, in shā’a Llāh.

Prophet ṣallá Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam saying: "Bashshirū wa-lā tunaffirū, yassirū wa-lā tu‘assirū." Everything you make it easy, make it not difficult, and give good tiding for people. Don’t give bad thing. This is adab of Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, adab of ṭarīqah, adab of Islām: to be good with people and to teach them with mercy, with quiet, not with difficult. Slowly, slowly can there be more love. Some people they want, [at] once they teach people, and everybody must do this as it is written by book. But people they cannot, many people they don’t know anything about religion, about what is sunnah, what is farḍ; so slowly, slowly you must teach them. Don’t make order them, "Do this, don’t do that," like this. They will be opposite. They will run away from you, and soon [from] what you teach them also.

This is problem. Many people they had this problem, and they left religion and not looking at all. Whole life just, for this people, they make them to do what they thought it is right. It is right, but you cannot every right you do it directly. Slowly, slowly they accept. But when you do by force, by... force and make them to do – maybe they can do a little bit. After, they will run away they will not come back at all for this. For this, we must teach other people or family or children with slowly, slowly – with, make them to happy with you when you are doing this. Not, when they are seeing you, they left and run away.

We see many people they was very good family, very good people, but when father, he try to make them as he thought he is doing right, they make them run away and never come back to religion. This very unlucky for this, because we know this family, we know them. They are very good people, but since from father he thought he is doing good, he has no wisdom, they run away and never come back. We can, this people was, can win them in this way, way of Allāh جل جلاله way of Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, way of ṭarīqah, and they can teach other people. Now from this one man like this, maybe hundred people they are not coming to Islām or to religion or to respect this, even.

So, it is very important to be have some wisdom. For this, Prophet ṣallá Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam saying: "Tafakkur sā‘atin khayrun min ‘ibādati sab‘īn sanah." To think one hour, what it is right, what is wrong, what we must do – better than worshiping seventy years. Seventy years, one hour better than this. Because in one hour, maybe you can win everything. But in seventy years, only – other people they win. But in seventy years, only you maybe win; other people, maybe they are not happy.

For this, we are, Mawlānā Shaykh all time he was tough for himself. Never he was tough for other people. All time, he make them to be happy with him. He give them very easy thing to do. From very easy thing, after, they do everything. This is for his barakah.

In shā’a Llah, Allāh جل جلاله make us, all of us to have this wisdom and to be good with other people, with us also, in shā’a Llāh.

Wa-min Allāhi t-tawfīq, al-Fātiḥah.


علّم بحكمة ورحمة (17-4-2023)
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بسم اله الرحمن الرحيم
"بَشِّرُوا ولا تُنَفِّرُوا، يَسِّرُوا ولا تُعَسِّرُوا"

يقول نبينا الكريم صلى الله عليه وسلم. يقول "اجعلوا الأمور سهلة ولا تعقّدوها". التعقيد يقود الناس إلى الكره ويبعدهم. يبعدهم عن الدين. يجب أن لا نعقّد الأمور كثيراً عليهم.
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لأنه ليس الجميع معتادين على ذلك. هناك أشخاص إهتدوا فيما بعد. هناك أولاد. لم يعتادوا على ذلك أيضًا. يجب إظهار الخير والشر بطريقة لطيفة والتأكد من أنهم يفعلون ذلك. خلاف ذلك، عندما يكون بالقوة، في معظم الأحيان، تحدث الأمور بالطريقة الأخرى. يحدث العكس. يبدأ الناس بالكراهية. لا يريدون أن يسمعوا ويريدون الهروب من هذا الشيء.
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لذلك، يجب أن نفكّر في كل ما نقوم به. يجب أن ننظر فيما إذا كنا نعمل بشكل صحيح أم أننا نُخطئ. لهذا يقول الحديث الشريف لنبينا الكريم "تَفَكُّرَ سَاعَةٍ خَيْرٌ مِنْ عِبَادَةِ سَبْعِينَ سَنَةٍ". أفضل من عبادة سبعين سنة. ربما في تلك الساعة الواحدة يفعل المرء أشياء أفضل بكثير. تكون مفيدة للإنسانية وله. وإلا فإن العبادة لا تنفع الآخرين لا تنفع سوى نفسه. لا يوجد شيء للآخرين. لذلك، يجب أن تفكّر في ما يجب أن تفعله وكيف تتصرف. ويجب أن تفكر فيه وتتصرف وفقًا لذلك.
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أول شيء يجب على الناس فعله لعائلاتهم هو تعليمهم الصلاة. لا يمكنك أن تجعلهم يصلّون بالضرب. إذا فعلوا ذلك، فهذا حتى وقت ما. ثم سيهربون. يجب أن تفعل كل شيء بالحُسنى حتى يتّبعوك ولا يزعجوك. خلاف ذلك، كلما استخدمت القوة وأرغمتهم، كلما حاولوا الفرار أكثر. لا يوجد شيء للفرار منه. لذلك، إذا كنت تريد القيام بذلك، فافعل ذلك لنفسك. إذا كنت ترغب في تعقيد الأمور والقيام بالمزيد، فافعل ذلك لنفسك. دع نفسك تفعل ذلك. اظلم غرورك. الأمر ليس كذلك مع الآخرين. يمكنك استخدام القوة فقط على نفسك، وفعل الخير للآخرين.
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أظهر الجمال دائمًا. بالجمال، سيكون لديهم عاطفة تجاهك. سيُحبّونك وسيتّبعونك. يمكنك جعلهم يفعلون كل ما تريد. خلاف ذلك، لا يمكنك. الله ﷻ يرزقنا الحكمة جميعا. نرجو أن يُرينا ﷻ ما يجب أن نفعله، وليس وفقًا لنفوسنا. نرجو أن نعرف الخير والشر إن شاء الله. ومن الله التوفيق . الفاتحة .
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مولانا الشيخ محمد عادل الرباني
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